5 tips for personal and career growth
Personal growth courses are a popular way to work on yourself for those who want to succeed in life and become better. But, as practice shows, the effectiveness of such courses is often exaggerated, and the results may even be dangerous for mental health. To avoid becoming a victim of fraudsters on the path to self-improvement, we advise being critical of everything that those coaches say.
1. Visualize your dreams
Usually, those trainers tell you to imagine that you already have what you desire. They believe that it helps motivate you to achieve your goals. You should imagine your desire in the smallest details. This approach turns your dream into an obsession. This advice takes you away from reality and makes you dream about the idealized future.
You should drop empty fantasies and try to think about what you can do for your dream today. A small action will bring you closer to a dream much faster than any, even the strongest, imagination. And don’t suspend your happiness for the future. Notice the good that you already poses. After all, someone does not even have this.
2. Be happy every minute of your life
Personal growth trainers are sure that a successful person is always happy. Therefore, at those courses, an inspiring-enthusiastic atmosphere is often artificially created. Then participants try to maintain it in everyday life and fail thinking that there is something wrong with them.
Happiness cannot and should not last forever. Allow yourself to experience different emotions and try not to suppress negative ones. You should accept and live along with positive and negative emotions. And do not forget, over time, we devalue what is boring for us, even the most pleasant and good things become boring and unpleasant.
3. Set high goals
“Set yourself high, worthy goals, if you do not want to be a loser,” this is what coaches usually tell us. And we, of course, do not want to be losers, so we set the bar high. And in the end, those goals drag us down.
Set realistic goals. Ask yourself, "Do I really need this? Will a nice apartment in another country make me happy, or will it be better for me in a small house on the riverbank next to my family?" Indeed, most often we achieve something, not for ourselves but because we try hard to please others and want to seem successful.
4. Overcome obstacles by willpower
We usually hear that we should fight against every obstacle that appears on our way. No matter how much effort we spent and how much it will cost us. The main idea is to get rid of obstacles to prove to ourselves and others that we are no wimps.
This approach is harmful. Because sometimes we must accept a problematic situation. Instead of wasting our resources trying to fight it, we should think about how we can prevent it in the future.
5. Surround yourself only with successful people
This approach forms a consumer attitude to relations between people. Relations between people develop around common interests and mutual understanding. You get the illusion of communication if you spend time with people only because they are successful. Your loved ones may not be very successful, but they love and understand you better than anyone else.